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Dating Fraud !

iSeekSugarBabyMale2There are so many rules to online dating on top of the endless rules to dating while offline. Just typing the words ‘Online Dating’ into your search browser will keep you busy reading contradicting statements of online profile dos and don’ts that you’ll never want to see the word dating again. Now, if you’ve been on a dating website for more than a day, you already know the frustration of vague profiles that look great, but don’t seem to have any real personality besides using the word fun a few million times. Every day, you’ll get mainly generic responses that feel like you were contacted through a product of copy and paste. Then the real shocker is when you finally set a date and who showed up is definitely not who was marketed in the profile. Do you want to know the secret to online dating? Being honest and real.

When you make a dating profile, you are advertising yourself.

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Portrait of beautiful young sexy woman on yellow background

If you are searching for a friend, partner or any other person, then you will want someone who wants the real you. Hopefully the desired end result is to hangout, meetup, play/watch sports or anything else, you want to really-real. And, if you want this to last for a long time even more important to be real. e last time, because then you will have the rest of your life to be happy and in love with that someone you find. Sometimes it helps if you have friends help point out your great qualities that should be on your profile, because we sometimes see ourselves differently than others see us.

Don’t fib, not even a little.

I don’t know many people who like to start a brand new relationship that is founded on numerous white lies. Saying that you love a popular hobby, like hiking, on your profile so it stands out is great if you like hiking; however, if you hate being outdoors and you begin dating someone who loves hiking as much as your profile persona, eventually they are going to catch on that you lied. After you have excused your way out of the sixth hiking date offer, they will probably call it quits.

Honesty doesn’t mean imperfection.

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Group Of Teenage Students Sitting Outside On College Steps Using Mobile Phone

There are many ways to view the same thing. If you are a ‘stay in’ kind of person and don’t really like the social scene, then say it. “I’m not the kind of girl that likes to hang out at clubs and parties, but if you appreciate great home cooked food, Netflix, and cuddling in front of the fireplace, then I’m your kind of girl.” That sentence makes staying in sound like a fabulous time instead of – “I hate clubs and prefer to stay in on Friday nights.” That just sounds surly and like a bad time. There are ways to make any personality type or hobby sound fun for the right kind of person.

Pictures and hobbies can make or break a profile.

If you have a unique hobby like competing in archery, or are able to line dance for hours, talk about it! There is a good chance that someone will contact you because they do the same thing or are interested in your hobby. This is not the time to conform to social expectations. A picture is worth a thousand words and while we shouldn’t, people do judge a book by its cover. Take time to find the best pictures for your dating profile. If you are not satisfied with any photos you already have, take some new ones with the help of a friend or two.

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ReallyReal Sex

sex2Sex is one of those topics that some people can’t seem to discuss with a new partner. There are also a lot of popular misconceptions from various sources that lead people to make not so good choices in the bedroom. The first step is talking to your partner before you get intimately involved. If you are not comfortable having that conversation yet, here are some general sex facts. However, people are not psychic and some want sex a lot. Others want more but afraid to ask. Others don’t know anything about sex but want to learn and someone to really pleasure them daily. So, get a grip on your sexual needs, wants and what you really love !

 

37260410_mlMasturbation is a normal. It does not mean that your partner isn’t getting enough, nor does it mean there is something wrong with your sex life. A high majority of people masturbate for any number of reasons, from stress relief, to sleep better, and even relieve PMS symptoms. Also, using a vibrator while masturbating, or just masturbating, will not desensitize a woman for sex later. If anything, it could heighten her pleasure because her body could be more responsive and more easily aroused. So everyone, go and masturbate as much as you like.

 

sex1Men aren’t always in the mood just like women. Whoever told you that if he says no you when you suggest sex then his up to something was very wrong. Just like women, men may turn down sex when they are not in the mood for various reasons like not feeling good, a bad day, and even tired. Let him relax, offer him a shoulder massage, and try again later. Just because he isn’t in the mood, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you or something is wrong in the relationship.

 

There is no formula for how often you should have sex, so stop basing your sex life off those magazine quizzes. Five times a week, once a week, three times a month… whatever quantity that works for you and your partner is how often you should be getting it on. People have different sexual needs and that includes frequency. Some couples will opt for sex all the time and the more you find giving pleasure – the more you will get pleasure.

 

35843745_ml-aChanging it up in the bedroom can add a new spice, but it doesn’t mean you are lacking spice. Some couples like to experiment sexually while other a perfectly okay with always staying missionary. Discuss boundaries ahead of time so that no one will be uncomfortable. Remember that just because someone is asking to try something new, it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with what you already do. If you’re worried that saying no will be an issue, try suggesting something else that you would enjoy instead.

 

47748804_sSimultaneous orgasms are for erotica and romance novels. Yes it is possible to orgasm together and it can be amazing, but it is rather difficult to accomplish. It takes a lot of control from both individuals which can be difficult to control and time. Don’t consider it the goal every time you have sex, but consider it like winning on a scratch ticket or the lottery. Sex should be about pleasure not stress with who and whomever and wherever you like.

Really Real Ways For First Meetup

31174880_sNothing can make or break a relationship before it starts like a first impression. A first impression can last a lifetime, and it is important to properly represent yourself. You want to portray the real you in the first moments of contact. With something that is so important, it is easy to get it wrong. Here are some tips to make your first impression a real one.

1. Be really real on your dating profile. It will be the first impression for your date, but it will also set up their expectations of who you are on your date as well. If your date realizes that you weren’t honest on your profile, they will assume you just aren’t an honest person.

2. Dress your best. You should dress for the occasion. If you prefer a casual style, but are going to a nice restaurant, dress nice according to your comfort level. Yoga pants are usually a sign that you are not serious, unless your first date involves exercise or couch cuddling.

3. Maintain some mystery. It’s a first date; they don’t need to know your life story. Keep very personal information to yourself unless it’s important to the date. What your therapist said at your last appointment is for your BFF, not your date.

4. Stay away from hot topics. Marriage, children, religion, and politics are all something that should have been covered in the dating profile if it was extremely important. Either way, don’t bring any of these up on the first date. Even if it makes or breaks a relationship in your eyes, your date might feel a red flag that it’s being discussed on a first date. Also, never EVER ask how the date is going or how they feel that match is. It can make a date go bad or awkward real quick. Yes, talk about sex and other things you want in a relationship – calls – no calls, texting, sexting, etc. If you like the person have sex with them – there is no one survey that confirms having sex on the first date has any correlation to relationship longevity.

25568905_s5. STAY OFF YOUR CELL! Some jobs or personal matters may require you to take a phone call during a date. Try to ensure that you don’t need to, but if it is unavoidable, make sure to mention this at the start of the date, and stay off your phone unless you get that important call. Nothing is more of a bad impression than someone who has to check their cell/smartphone every 15 seconds. Nothing is more rude than texting in front of another person.

6. Be on time! Nothing is more frustrating than showing up to a first date 10 minutes early and your date arrive late. If you are too late, your date might think you stood them up and leave. It could ruin your chance at getting a second date. As one fashion model said, if you are early – you are ontime. If you are ontime – you are late. And, if you are late – you are fired !

31900636_sDating IS difficult, and finding the right person even more so. Don’t let something like a bad first impression ruin your chance at a great relationship with the right person. Oh, last remember what Patrick Swayze said in the movie Road House, “just be nice” as manners are always appreciated. You may not want to date this person but you never know about it could be a career opportunity. Oh, have fun and show your silly side. Life is too short to not have a sense of humor.

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ReallyReal Friends

3-wayFinding a real friendship is hard. Many times it feels superficial or one-sided. There are a lot of people out there who will only take and never give. When it comes to real friends, you want someone who gives more than they receive; someone you can rely on. On the flip side, you also want to be the best friend you can be so you don’t lose those great friends you already have. Here are some tips about what qualities make real friends.

 

  1. Be yourself because no one enjoys bait and swap. Don’t do it to a date, potential date, or friends.

 

  1. Don’t hold unrealistic expectations about how your friends should be. High expectations of people you don’t know will always leave people falling short.

 

  1. techteen-1Don’t lie, even by omission – be really real. Being lied to is one of the worst feelings in the world. Lying by omission doesn’t count as lying, but it still feels like betrayal when the truth comes out. And the truth always comes out, sooner or later.

 

  1. Don’t judge your friends by their choices. There are many decisions and lifestyles that people make that friends will not agree with, but real friends will still support them through the trials of that choice.

 

  1. Be loyal and respect your friends because they deserve it. It is never okay to gossip about your friends. You should also defend your friend if someone else is gossiping about them. You would want your friend to do the same about you.

 

  1. Don’t argue and forgive your friend. Everyone makes mistakes. You make mistakes, your friends make mistakes, even those that seem perfect make mistakes. Instead of holding grudges or keeping score, a real friend will forgive a mistake.

 

  1. Be there for your friends, at their best and their worst. You always have friends when things are great, but many of them seem to disappear when things get rough. Be reliable for your friends by being there for them when they are at their worst, because you would want them to be there for you. However, set the parameters NOW that if you can’t be there for them ALL the time or most of the time. Also, make it clear you are NOT going to bail them out of jail.

 

  1. Find time and stick to common interests. Everyone has more fun when everyone can relate to hang out spots. If they want to do something that isn’t on your favorite list, compromise a bit and agree to one day for them and one day for you.

 

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    Keep things 50/50. No one wants to be ignored while your friend only talks about themselves 24/7.

 

  1. Make an effort. Just like any relationship, it takes an effort on both sides to keep the relationship strong. There are those rare friendships where you can pick up where you left off years later, but that isn’t true for everyone.

 

  1. No negativity zone. Everyday life can be difficult and being negative all the time can wear down friendships. There should always be a positive area and people in your life where you can de-stress. That’s what friends are for.

 

  1. Remain independent and boundaries. Even though you want your friends to be there for you when you need them, you shouldn’t rely on them for everything. It’s healthy to be able to handle some things on your own, but not everything. Find a sweet halfway point between totally independent and totally dependent.

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Catfish Reality – Jake Gyllenhaal Loses His Sh*t at Amy Schumer

Allow Jake Gyllenhaal to show how he earned that Oscar nomination, via this insane Inside Amy Schumer skit he stars in (courtesy of The Hollywood Reporter). A fame-hungry Amy thinks she’s being played by a ferret fanatic claiming to be Jake who’s been messaging her, so she goes on Katfish (à la MTV’s magical reality drama, Catfish). She arrives at his place to out him, only to find it’s really Jake. “Of course, why would I lie?” he told her, referencing his Oscar nomination. “That’s a really cool thing to get….” Click on image for video.

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Jake is all about it until he realizes Amy isn’t the ferret enthusiast she claimed to be. And that’s when he has a glorious meltdown while dangling a ferret. “You LIED to me?! F*ck you! F*ck you, Amy! I believed in you!” And it only gets better at the 3:00 mark:

real-catfishAccording to Urban Dictionary – “A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they’re not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.”

 

 

As you can imagine, catfishing is so rampant that you wonder who’s really real ?

 

 

Sugar Daddy Dating

Burnt-Out Blues Are A Thing Of The Past

There’s no disputing the fact that there isn’t a shortage of criticism for sugar daddy and baby arrangements. A well-off older man/woman trading money in exchange for the companionship of a financially struggling but attractive young adult – has sparked a whirlwind of controversy amongst the many faces of sexism, feminism, and college grads/undergrads. Some even belittling it so much as to call it “sickening” and “an excuse for prostitution” and “desperate” attempts for finding fast cash while discarding personal moral values. But that’s not what Susie (not her real name), 22-year old junior and native of Colorado believes. Susie is a full-time student, and all though federal student loans pay for a good portion of her tuition and academic expenses, Susie says that “it’s still just, not enough.” Susie cringes at the idea of a full-time job along with her studies; she says that even her two former part-time jobs (one as a receptionist for a real estate company, and the other as a hostess at a pub) barely got her by on rent, food and car insurance.

Nine months ago, she was living month-to-month, scraping together money from her meager pay checks and portioning out her student money ever conservatively in the slight chance that she be laid off or lose her job for some reason in the future. “After losing my full-time job at a local ‘mom-and-pop’ packaging service because they refused to work with my new semester’s schedule, I had to make sure that I secured two jobs in case the company all of a sudden, turned on me. After I had already given them so much time and compromised an A in one of my courses for a B because I’d really tried pleasing them to keep my job, they still had the nerve to let me go. I couldn’t risk that scenario happening again.” So Susie got her jobs to accommodate her busy academic schedule, as a receptionist during her days off, and a hostess late at nights after school, until early morning before school.

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Finding time to study in-between was near impossible. It was just as hard to stay awake in classes and finish homework between shifts as it was in her full-time job, but at least she wasn’t going to have the added stress of paying her bills on time on top of a busy study schedule. At first, Susie didn’t even know about this sugar dating service. She instead, resorted to other alternatives that were a threat to her health. Taking uppers like speed, daily, sometimes 2-3 times a day, just to finish homework, or study for an exam, or even to stay awake during class or a shift. “If I tried coming off of them, I’d crash in front of my keyboard for hours, oversleeping and missing class or being late for a shift.” Susie recalls. “And if I ever managed to have a free day because school was cancelled, I’d be waning of these pills, and the crash was just awful. I’d become really agitated and moody, and I’d have fits with everyone I knew. I lost friends and made severe gaps between family members, because I couldn’t control my rage.” It didn’t stop at threatening her social life – soon her professional life was starting to crumble from it. “Having an outburst over the phone with a client from the real estate company, I again, lost another job, and was going to be on high stress levels whilst job hunting.”

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Susie was tired of the same scathing jobs and the same uncertainty that comes with every typical ‘9-5’ type of work. She was searching for something different, some outlet that provided big bucks without requiring she kill herself with lack of sleep, abundance of stress, compromising grades and succumbing to artificial stimulants for the sake of her schooling. She knew she didn’t have it in her to put all her chickens in one basket on some 1-in-a-millioninth chance talent competition, or creating something ingenious that someone else would want to invest in. Besides, those were dreams better saved for people who actually worked towards those, and still sacrifice a life for that one shining moment on America’s Got Talent or Shark Tank. No, Susie would have to try something she never considered until now – becoming a sugar baby.

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While on her unyielding Google search, she came across an article about college women who were in her same position and willing to give their time to someone who could provide them with a convenient lifestyle and foot their bill for tuition. She admits that she was hesitant and a little judgmental, initially, at the thought of sex with men who would pay up for such attentiveness. But then she thought of the unfair hands she’d been dealt – here she was, a hard-working girl with ambition and inspiration to become something and do something with her life, and yet, she was in the same boat as many of her co-workers who never attended college, struggling to afford an aged car, an apartment in a complex notorious for bed bugs and manager special’s on expired food from the local deli. She had done her best to balance her life out and remain loyal to jobs, but still she had to resort to illegal means of abusing street prescription drugs and tearing up her social life just to hold on to her academic and basic survival. It was intolerable. iStock_000018768319SmallAnd with that conclusion, Susie decided that her world didn’t have to be this hard, and that being paid to be someone’s friend was something she could do for herself, to give her the deserving break she desperately needed. So when people call sugar daddy dating services “desperate” Susie agrees, and says “yeah, I was desperate, and my moral compass [told me] that this was a much more legit way to earn money and maintain good grades than pour over some illegal ‘limitless-wannabe’ miracle drug that made me feel like s***” referring to the recent movie with Bradley Cooper.

A Happy Ending

Susie says that in her experience with being a sugar baby, she has found more interesting conversation and sincere listeners in the sugar daddies she meets than she ever has in her entire dating repertoire. The guys she met in school were always so caught up in themselves, and what they wanted. “They never bothered to make a real connection, and they were as financially unstable as I was, so they could never take me out on the dates I get to go on with the men I’ve found now.” And many of the men, Susie reveals, aren’t looking for sex, but actual compatibility and friendship. Susie says that she no longer has to have unnatural mood swings that affect every other relationship in her life, and that she no longer works unrelenting hours and can actually find time to sleep and study without worrying about where her next paycheck will come from. “I talk to them and get to know their upbringing, and own struggles and triumphs, and obsess about my own, all while enjoying a lavish cup of coffee at some posh restaurant after lunch.” Susie says that she will also not have to worry about debt after she graduates, because her newest squeeze has continued to pay her loans off bit by bit, and that makes the job search after graduation, a whole lot brighter. She likes to think of it as work actually worth the money it pays, for a change.

There are thousands of girls out there that are vying to keep their head above water. But the truth is, that struggle to work while in school is old news. With this sugar dating service, there is finally opportunity for young women to find their way in life and focus on making an impact on the world, rather than following the status quo that prohibits any young adult to make a difference in the world because their busy fretting about their financial strains. With the recent rise in student loans and a seemingly never ending pool of debt that so many college grads seem to be diving into, why should this legit alternative to earning money be anything but another respectable way to earn money? Women working in contact centers to cocktail waitresses working two or more jobs, and now a stress-free job description as a sugar baby is the new dating fad – and we’re all ready to pounce on the idea? Maybe we should open our eyes to what financial burdens have been placed on our society for us to have evolved into this new trend, and many of those criticizers would consider the employment for what it truly is – just another job opportunity in light of a poor economy.

In Part 2, there will be another success story compilation of sugar baby males and sugar mommies, a sugar baby female with other struggles and sugar daddy (focusing on discrete benefits of such dating service), and how she’ll continue it after school is over.

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Sugar Daddy Dating – True Story

Burnt-Out Blues Are A Thing Of The Past

There’s no disputing the fact that there isn’t a shortage of criticism for sugar daddy and baby arrangements. A well-off older man/woman trading money in exchange for the companionship of a financially struggling but attractive young adult – has sparked a whirlwind of controversy amongst the many faces of sexism, feminism, and college grads/undergrads. Some even belittling it so much as to call it “sickening” and “an excuse for prostitution” and “desperate” attempts for finding fast cash while discarding personal moral values. But that’s not what Susie (not her real name), 22-year old junior and native of Colorado believes. Susie is a full-time student, and all though federal student loans pay for a good portion of her tuition and academic expenses, Susie says that “it’s still just, not enough.” Susie cringes at the idea of a full-time job along with her studies; she says that even her two former part-time jobs (one as a receptionist for a real estate company, and the other as a hostess at a pub) barely got her by on rent, food and car insurance.

Nine months ago, she was living month-to-month, scraping together money from her meager pay checks and portioning out her student money ever conservatively in the slight chance that she be laid off or lose her job for some reason in the future. “After losing my full-time job at a local ‘mom-and-pop’ packaging service because they refused to work with my new semester’s schedule, I had to make sure that I secured two jobs in case the company all of a sudden, turned on me. After I had already given them so much time and compromised an A in one of my courses for a B because I’d really tried pleasing them to keep my job, they still had the nerve to let me go. I couldn’t risk that scenario happening again.” So Susie got her jobs to accommodate her busy academic schedule, as a receptionist during her days off, and a hostess late at nights after school, until early morning before school.

banners6Succumbing To The Need For Speed

Finding time to study in-between was near impossible. It was just as hard to stay awake in classes and finish homework between shifts as it was in her full-time job, but at least she wasn’t going to have the added stress of paying her bills on time on top of a busy study schedule. At first, Susie didn’t even know about this sugar dating service. She instead, resorted to other alternatives that were a threat to her health. Taking uppers like speed, daily, sometimes 2-3 times a day, just to finish homework, or study for an exam, or even to stay awake during class or a shift. “If I tried coming off of them, I’d crash in front of my keyboard for hours, oversleeping and missing class or being late for a shift.” Susie recalls. “And if I ever managed to have a free day because school was cancelled, I’d be waning of these pills, and the crash was just awful. I’d become really agitated and moody, and I’d have fits with everyone I knew. I lost friends and made severe gaps between family members, because I couldn’t control my rage.” It didn’t stop at threatening her social life – soon her professional life was starting to crumble from it. “Having an outburst over the phone with a client from the real estate company, I again, lost another job, and was going to be on high stress levels whilst job hunting.”

bieyes-photobooth-728x90-E&M-pinkSomething Different – Daddy Dating

Susie was tired of the same scathing jobs and the same uncertainty that comes with every typical ‘9-5’ type of work. She was searching for something different, some outlet that provided big bucks without requiring she kill herself with lack of sleep, abundance of stress, compromising grades and succumbing to artificial stimulants for the sake of her schooling. She knew she didn’t have it in her to put all her chickens in one basket on some 1-in-a-millioninth chance talent competition, or creating something ingenious that someone else would want to invest in. Besides, those were dreams better saved for people who actually worked towards those, and still sacrifice a life for that one shining moment on America’s Got Talent or Shark Tank. No, Susie would have to try something she never considered until now – becoming a sugar baby.

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While on her unyielding Google search, she came across an article about college women who were in her same position and willing to give their time to someone who could provide them with a convenient lifestyle and foot their bill for tuition. She admits that she was hesitant and a little judgmental, initially, at the thought of sex with men who would pay up for such attentiveness. But then she thought of the unfair hands she’d been dealt – here she was, a hard-working girl with ambition and inspiration to become something and do something with her life, and yet, she was in the same boat as many of her co-workers who never attended college, struggling to afford an aged car, an apartment in a complex notorious for bed bugs and manager special’s on expired food from the local deli. She had done her best to balance her life out and remain loyal to jobs, but still she had to resort to illegal means of abusing street prescription drugs and tearing up her social life just to hold on to her academic and basic survival. It was intolerable. iStock_000018768319SmallAnd with that conclusion, Susie decided that her world didn’t have to be this hard, and that being paid to be someone’s friend was something she could do for herself, to give her the deserving break she desperately needed. So when people call sugar daddy dating services “desperate” Susie agrees, and says “yeah, I was desperate, and my moral compass [told me] that this was a much more legit way to earn money and maintain good grades than pour over some illegal ‘limitless-wannabe’ miracle drug that made me feel like s***” referring to the recent movie with Bradley Cooper.

A Happy Ending

Susie says that in her experience with being a sugar baby, she has found more interesting conversation and sincere listeners in the sugar daddies she meets than she ever has in her entire dating repertoire. The guys she met in school were always so caught up in themselves, and what they wanted. “They never bothered to make a real connection, and they were as financially unstable as I was, so they could never take me out on the dates I get to go on with the men I’ve found now.” And many of the men, Susie reveals, aren’t looking for sex, but actual compatibility and friendship. Susie says that she no longer has to have unnatural mood swings that affect every other relationship in her life, and that she no longer works unrelenting hours and can actually find time to sleep and study without worrying about where her next paycheck will come from. “I talk to them and get to know their upbringing, and own struggles and triumphs, and obsess about my own, all while enjoying a lavish cup of coffee at some posh restaurant after lunch.” Susie says that she will also not have to worry about debt after she graduates, because her newest squeeze has continued to pay her loans off bit by bit, and that makes the job search after graduation, a whole lot brighter. She likes to think of it as work actually worth the money it pays, for a change.

There are thousands of girls out there that are vying to keep their head above water. But the truth is, that struggle to work while in school is old news. With this sugar dating service, there is finally opportunity for young women to find their way in life and focus on making an impact on the world, rather than following the status quo that prohibits any young adult to make a difference in the world because their busy fretting about their financial strains. With the recent rise in student loans and a seemingly never ending pool of debt that so many college grads seem to be diving into, why should this legit alternative to earning money be anything but another respectable way to earn money? Women working in contact centers to cocktail waitresses working two or more jobs, and now a stress-free job description as a sugar baby is the new dating fad – and we’re all ready to pounce on the idea? Maybe we should open our eyes to what financial burdens have been placed on our society for us to have evolved into this new trend, and many of those criticizers would consider the employment for what it truly is – just another job opportunity in light of a poor economy.

In Part 3, there will be another success story compilation of sugar baby males and sugar mommies, a sugar baby female with other struggles and sugar daddy (focusing on discrete benefits of such dating service), and how she’ll continue it after school is over.

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Sugar Dating – Polyamorous Sugar Quartet

Sugar Dating – Sugar Polyamorous Quartet

Shopping!Shannon is a level-headed 23 year-old Virgo with a ‘9-5’ job and is in a committed relationship. Her girlfriend, Rachel, is a free-spirited Sagittarian adrenaline-junkie, who at 31, writes for an extreme sports magazine and hops from skydiving one day to scuba diving the next, for her work. They had been together three years before Rachel met Mia at a training center for rock climbing across town. Mia was a hippie of sorts, a shy and reserved 19 year old who loved incense, herbal tea, vintage clothing, thrift shops and craft stores. She didn’t have a job, didn’t have a whole lot of direction, and had dropped out of school in the ninth grade to help her Mom pay the bills at home for her younger siblings. Rachel felt compelled to help her, and even more compelled by her youthful vibrancy and beauty. Mia had been at the training center looking for her boyfriend who frequented the site on his weekends. But lucky for Rachel, he hadn’t been there. They had tea at a café nearby, and were secretly infatuated with each other from then on. Since both were in committed relationships, however, neither of them wanted to spoil those in exchange of an affair – despite their mutual desire for one another. Mia confessed that she was attracted to Rachel, but that she still loved her boyfriend. Rachel agreed in thoughts of Shannon.

Just Friends

Presenting the numbersAs time went on, Rachel learned that Mia’s boyfriend was named Jordan. He was 44 years old and she had found him on a sugar daddy dating site. He was a public speaking instructor at some community college and was working towards his masters in linguistics. He had already completed a number of degrees in film and journalism, and was forever building to his repertoire of academia. He inherited a lot of money from his father’s estate after he passed away four years ago. And even though he didn’t admit it, Mia suspected he’d come from a very wealthy family and never needed to work, which would explain why he had so much time for studies while taking low income jobs his whole life. He was seeking female companionship at the same time that she was seeking guidance and nurturing. Mia described their love for each other as sincere and passionate despite what some onlookers may assume. They’d been together for a year and she wasn’t planning on breaking that streak anytime soon. Mia in turn, learned much about Rachel’s relationship with Shannon and how Shannon had been the secretary at some construction office she had stumbled upon one day. Soon she was devising plans to casually see her and speak with her on the phone. Shannon had never considered being a lesbian until she’d escaped an abusive relationship with her last boyfriend, after which she had a hard time trusting men again. Mia could understand now that Rachel was one of those types of partners that need to be the place of sanctuary for a person in the relationship – much like Jordan was to her in their union.

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Double Date

It wasn’t long after they became best friends that they agreed to double date one evening. They had arranged a night of steaks and burgers at the local hip bistro followed by a night of bar hopping and dance clubs. With all the drinks soaking into their bloodstream and heart pounding music vibrating around them, they would get a chance to really connect with each other in a pressure-free environment. Jordan found Shannon uncontrollably attractive and very much his type; all though he’d never say it aloud – he didn’t know how romantically interested Mia and Rachel were already. Shannon was completely wary of Jordan, and stayed her distance from him all throughout dinner. Mia, possibly inspired by the new territory she had explored connecting mentally with Rachel, was also attracted to Shannon as well. And Shannon was secretly crushing on Mia, but would never dream of admitting it to Rachel or even herself. Along with those immediate physical attractions, she also felt a bit intimidated by Mia, considering the possibilities that could have occurred between her and Rachel with all the time they’d been spending together. She never pictured Mia to be so wonderfully introspective yet relaxed and gorgeous all at once. Jordan found Rachel to be a bit too aggressive to be friendly with. He felt like she was headstrong and he wasn’t used to such forcefulness in a woman. And Rachel didn’t think too much of Jordan. He seemed like a bookworm who never got out a whole lot, and came across quite sheltered. She thought they could be friends easily though, he would just need to come out of his shell a bit, and she would help with that.

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1ipartyinvite20aTheir plans to screen the bars hit a snag when Mia got stamped at the door: underage. With Mia unable to partake in the binge between the rest of them underway, Shannon decided to not drink either. Instead, she used it as a perfect opportunity to get to know Mia better. They gradually bonded while Rachel challenged Jordan to a couple of friendly drinking games from bar to bar, getting him drunker and drunker. Rachel could hold her own a little better than Jordan could, so by the time all four of them reached their first club of the night, she was relatively sober compared to him. He was so loosened up that he started spouting how sexy he thought each of the ladies was. He felt a surprisingly strong gravitation towards Rachel, who he did not expect to feel this way about. Rachel even, was mildly intrigued by this unhinged and oiled up version of Jordan that she had egged on. Shannon and Mia were grinding each other like rabid horny bunnies on the dance floor – and this was minus the influence of alcohol. There was no jealousy in the air – just four interconnected and sexually aroused people, two drunk and two sober.

The Proposal

The next day, the girls woke up to find themselves wrapped up in each other – clothes off – on Jordan’s living room floor. From left to right, Shannon spooned Mia, who was cozy against Rachel, who was to her surprise, spooned by Jordan, which revealed a much intermixed sandwich. Mia was the first to break the snuggle fest, tip toeing to the kitchen to brew a pot of coffee for everyone. As the rest of the gang began to stir – Shannon had scooted in closer to Rachel to seal the gap between them – Mia brought out a tray balancing four steaming mugs accompanied by a bottle of aspirin. Everyone graciously accepted their mugs and looked around at each other in attempt to fully comprehend the situation at hand. Jordan, realizing his close and personal position to Rachel, immediately sprang up and shifted over to Mia on the couch. And Shannon put her arm around Rachel at the same time. But quiet Mia was the first to speak. She pointed out the awkwardness they all must be feeling, but then she emphasized the fact that everyone seemed to enjoy themselves the night before and this morning. She divulged the fondness that grew between her and Rachel romantically, and how she’d like to continue this relationship between the four of them, romantically. But not before prefacing this proposal with a reassuring of how dear Jordan was to her and Shannon was to Rachel.

Persuasion

To assist her, Rachel jumped in and applauded Mia for stepping up and saying what she knew each of them were thinking – whether they wanted to or not. She stated that their primary partners would stay the same, but that their relationship with each other, however mixed it may be at times, was always secondary, as to not rock the boat too much. Jordan didn’t take long to think about it, and agreed that that was something he’d be willing to try out and was equally interested in. Shannon, however, was softened to the idea of having Mia join her and Rachel’s relationship as even a primary, but she wasn’t sold on the idea of Jordan just yet. She needed some coaxing – and it seemed all three of them knew exactly how to persuade her. They didn’t immediately jump into the sack yet, all though they were each secretly longing to share that first experience soon. They needed to build the foundation for this new joining of relationships on trust and understanding, first and foremost – like many meaningful relationships. So Rachel took them all out to an easy, breezy day on the lake. Taking the wave-runners out for a few laps, reading under a shaded tree and barbequing was how Shannon liked to spend her summer weekends, and Rachel knew this. While Shannon prepped the runners off the dock with Mia, Rachel started in on a surprise for the other three. She blew up a double-seated raft to go tubing on the back of the runners later – Shannon had been too scared to try it with just the two of them, but since there was a crowd, she thought it might boost her to do so, and enjoy it. Jordan fired up the grills while Shannon and Rachel strapped into life-jackets to get ready to go for a ride. Mia stayed behind with Jordan while the two of them went for a race around the bend.

Lovely woman's thighsWhen they came back, soaking and wet, Mia watched Rachel’s firm legs swing off the seat, her taught-toned and tanned muscles flexing as they did so. Mia swallowed, she had never been this eager to jump Rachel’s bones. Shannon caught the eye of Jordan as she released the clasps of her jacket, her bosom burst out, revealing large cleavage in her white drooping one-piece bikini. He tried to covertly adjust his swim trunks to make room for the growing manhood. She smirked a little bit as she too caught herself taking a better look at his long arms and broad shoulders, his large muscles defining him. For a nerdy guy, he wasn’t deprived much in the muscle department, she shamefully thought to herself. She didn’t think she’d ever like a man again, and maybe it was the feeling of the day or the coolness of the water beading up along her oily skin in this hot summer heat – but when she looked at him shirtless, she felt exceptionally wet inside her swimsuit, and it wasn’t just the water.

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Making It Official

After taking Mia out on a few races and splashing around in the shallow waters a bit, the girls were called in for lunch. Mia helped serve everyone with Jordan, and he cracked a few beers and passed them around. After hot dogs, hamburgers, potato salad and fruit medley – everyone lounged on widespread beach towels staring up at the sun, all except Jordan. Instead he settled himself on a chair underneath the shade of a tree, and opened a book. Mia asked him why he didn’t sit with them for a bit. He nodded it off. Then Shannon begged him to come over and sit by her because she’d seen him behind the grill all day and never out to play, and she wanted some time with him. This solidified it. The other three finally felt some understanding forming between them, and their four-way relationship sprouted even more. He came and sat between her and Mia, and the two of them stroked his chest tucked under his arms as Rachel began to crawl her two fingers flirtatiously down Mia’s bottom half of her bikini. The other two watched out of the corner of their eyes, imagining how she was twirling the pads of her finger tips against her clitoris, as Rachel started to smooth her hand down Mia’s crotch inside her suit, and just as Mia’s eyes began to roll back in heightening pleasure, Rachel licking up her shoulder with the tip of her tongue – she yanked her hand out from underneath, and shot up!

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She grabbed Mia’s hand and Shannon’s, yelled for them to come in the water and go tubing, and Shannon and Mia pulled Jordan up following her into the water. A little startled by the sudden change of agenda, Shannon giggled because she knew this was Rachel’s version of foreplay, getting things going and then stopping them with some other activity to draw the desire out until they could be alone. Jordan, however, was a little irritated – his shorts now unmistakably bulging out in the waist area. Mia tried to ease his irritation since she knew he was not one for teasing, and joked about how he looked like the Hulk ready to burst through his shorts with his full erection, and they all laughed and helped tie the rope from the tube to the back of a wave-runner. Shannon didn’t even hesitate, and sank on the raft with Jordan, both of them bettering their grip on the handles while Rachel took reins of the runner with Mia back-to-back with her. She straddled the seat and grinded it, winking and giggling to Jordan and Shannon. They both shifted on the raft with excitement. The rest of the day was spent at exhilarating speeds and laughter and flirting as they all alternated positions, whipping each other off the raft in a sharp turn or hitting a massive wave with a crash that sent the two passengers soaring through the sky. They even stopped at spot in the middle of the lake, and took a dive with each other. Between the heart racing activity and the slippery feel of one another’s skin, and playfully grabbing at each other’s waists and goosing each other’s butts, they hardly noticed the time passing by at such an enormously fast rate. It was already sunset before Shannon noticed and suggested they pack it up. There was no loss in the feeling of fun though, as they all packed up the coolers and hooked up the runners to the trailer, they all knew what was on each other’s minds without saying it – the evening activity was just beginning.

Sexcapades

When they got to Rachel and Shannon’s home, they didn’t even bother to park the trailer and Yukon correctly, they haphazardly left it hanging halfway out the garage and hurried into the house without seeming overly excited. Resting on each other’s laps across the bed, each of them took a moment of air conditioned relief from the sun before engaging in the part of the day they looked forward to the most. Rachel was the first to make the move, starting where she left off. Her head lay right next to Mia’s crotch, and she slowly pulled her pink bottoms off, digging straight into her pudendum. She flicked her tongue all around, swiping it up and down through her slot like a card in a credit machine; then she double backed to her clitoris, where she used the muscle in her tongue to generate vibrancy with the tip of it, all while sucking with her lips on the sensitive skin around this area. Mia moaned with shortness of breath at every salivating nerve she hit. She tilted her head back and lifted her neck, bending and griping to the bead sheets with her hands. Shannon, who was playing with herself this entire time while watching, took this as her cue and jumped into to suck her tongue out of her face with her lips. Mia and Shannon engaged in a full on wet French kiss, their lipstick and gloss staining the sides of their mouths and cheeks. Mia placed a delicate hand on Rachel’s head, gently rubbing her face into her more, smothering her tongue deeper inside her. She placed her other hand on one of Shannon’s breast and ravished it, squeezing and flicking her tongue all around the nipple. Shannon squeaked a small utter of satisfaction, and continued to shove her fingers inside of herself. Jordan who began stroking his own member some time ago without even realizing it, his eyes glued to the scene in front of him like a buffet of decadent meals, sprang to the opportunity. He untied the knot in Shannon’s suit behind her neck, pulled it down –Mia gave him only a small window of opportunity as she was fighting the twitch of pleasure she felt from Rachel while engorging herself in Shannon’s tits – and he shoved his way in.  Gently moving away her hands from insider herself, and then rubbing the pad of his thumb hard against her clitoris in a circular motion. He seemed to be on some tangent of ecstasy for her because she locked her eyes in on him and started to curl her lips in a sensual way, bending her knees and lifting her legs to let him in, shuddering from the pleasure.

Right before he entered, she stopped him at his chest with her hand and sucked on his index finger, but this made him ready to explode. He moved inside her, her muffin sweet and dripping with wetness, he held her back as he pumped with his pelvis. Shannon made a loud moan that shook the bed, leaving Mia without lips to lock. He quickly stepped in and shoved his tongue into her mouth, and she massaged it forcefully and with strength by her own. Rachel took a moment to breathe, and stuck her two fingers into Mia whipping around there gently, making Mia arch her waist up seeking more and more sensation. She gently pushed Jordan away, brought Rachel up to her mouth and pried herself away from Shannon’s tits. They rolled out of the bundle together and switched positions as Mia made kisses all the way down her abs and onto her labia. She squeezed her hips with her hands and swirled her tongue inside of her, jutting in and out and around like it was her favorite popsicle that was melting and she had to slurp it all up.

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Jordan focused on Shannon, pulling her hair back a little and kissing her tilted neck. This tickle made Shannon bend inward and in doing so, forced him further inside her – her eyes melted like she’d never felt this excitement before in her life. She could hear his heated breath breathing down her neck and in her hair. He pounded away, and then slowed it down with the sounds of her gasps. She bit her lip and looked him in the eyes, holding his chin in her hands. But as soon as they were about to kiss, Rachel and Mia shimmied in taking their partners aside. There look of pleasure that comes with a finished orgasm was slapped on Rachel’s face as she straddled Shannon and swallowed her breasts over and over with her lips. Mia pulled Jordan out of Shannon, and pushed him to the bed. She sank his member deep into her mouth and sucked his tip into an even stiffer pole. Then she pressed herself on and around him, and sank his penis inside her wet and erotically charged storm. Already nearly having gotten off from being inside Shannon, and feeling the tenderness of Mia’s tongue and body, it was hardly any time at all before he ejaculated with a shudder. Mia giggled, kissed him on the lips, and settled next to him, just as Shannon cried out in orgasmic pleasure. Rachel settled in next to her, and gave Mia a kiss before spooning Shannon.

Exponential Partners Is Mutually Beneficial

It was certainly the most salacious setting either had ever been in. But they were hooked. And ever since then, the four-way relationship has worked out amazing for each of their needs. Jordan takes them all out on lovely meals in the evenings and helps out with each of their expenses if the need ever arises. Mia is there for emotional support to each of them. Shannon is there for life coaching advice in many of their problematic areas professionally. And Rachel is there to help bring out the outgoing and energetic side in all of them. And they are all physically satisfying to one another. Even though they wouldn’t consider themselves sugar daters now that they’ve joined together – the fact remains that sugar dating has never tasted so sweet.

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Sugar Dating – What Are You Really Looking for?

Just What You’re Looking For

There are a number of different relationships in today’s society. Some are socially acceptable and others are frowned upon. There are ‘friends with benefits’ or ‘dating but not committed’ and ‘exclusive’. Then, there’s a type of relationship that has recently become defined and continues to gain popularity – ‘mutually beneficial relationship’.  A term coined by the expanding site, Seeking Arrangement, focuses on assisting the pairing of people who each value something that the other can provide.  passionA ‘Sugar Baby’ is a female over 18 (including college girls, wild girls, single moms, out of work girls, college girls who cannot find work but have lots of bills) who enjoys luxurious gifts and financial generosity in a companion.  A ‘Sugar Daddy/Mommy’ is a financially secure and empowered person who enjoys good conversation and companionship, and is willing to splurge extravagantly for this on the right person. The two parties fulfill one another’s needs in a cordial exchange, which is what ‘mutually beneficial dating’ is all about.

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There are plenty of sites out there with the same purpose as Seeking Arrangement. Some encourage accepting dates based on the highest bid (which teeters on the verge of prostitution) and others allow you to search by salary (which is tattooed with a more shallow intention). But Seeking Arrangement doesn’t permit either traits, and none have the sincere quality of understanding that this site does. They screen every submitted profile for acceptance before allowing access to the site’s features, double-checking photos for promiscuity and stats drenched with ill-placed intentions. In fact, infamous media icon, Farrah Abraham, claimed that she made her sex tape after a sugar dating service turned her down twice, according to Zimbio! Brandon Wade, CEO of Seeking Arrangement, commented on this claim, revealing that they did encounter her “more than once” but that they knew she wasn’t looking for a “lasting mutually beneficial arrangement.”

On top of this, they frequently filter through their profiles, deleting upwards of 200 fake accounts each day. In addition to this statistic, according to New York Daily News correspondent, Rheana Murray, Wade clarifies that these deletions aren’t based on little white lies pertaining to your age or exaggerations about your appearance. Fraudulent accounts belong to “scammers” who rely on your “trust [and} sympathy” in order to make money. Wade conducted a research study called “Face of Fraud” that identifies several characteristics most fake profiles have in common. Interestingly, its findings unveil that women and foreigners are more likely to stage this scam than men and Americans. By making people aware of these commonalities between foe-profiles, it will help other dating sites enhance the quality of its members. It’s this kind of genuine consideration for their subscribers that keeps this service at the top of sugar dating sites.

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College and Beyond Sugar Babies

What kinds of people are intrigued to become branded a ‘Sugar Baby’, you might ask. It may surprise some onlookers to find that college students are one of the biggest consumers this title caters to. Cheerful girl dances in a disco club.Stephanie Goldberg for CNN, stated that “female college students [make] up 44% of the site’s total users” as of 2012. She also goes on to reveal that ‘Sugar Daddies’ pay around 3,000 bucks on a regular basis to young women for their companionship. An article on Philly.com lists ‘the top 15 ‘Sugar Daddy’ colleges’ in America right now. On that list, Pennsylvania, Florida and Georgia schools appear twice, with Temple University ranking second. Everywhere across America, from Arizona to Wisconsin, from Texas to Alabama, from Michigan to Ohio, are schools with girls that are banking in on this new fad. But the highest ranking school with the most ‘Sugar Babies’ is New York University, with a tuition rate climbing to a whopping 60,000 dollars.  However, many college girls would rather have a sugar daddy than stand endless hours as a cashier, hostess, waitress or work for free as an intern.  Some college girls surveyed are just tired of dating college boys who are more interested in computer games than girls.  iStock_000018768319SmallOther girls want to “try on” dating older guys who know how to treat a girl inside and outside of the bedroom.  Still other girls want to “step out” of their relationship and “go out” more often than their relationship or marriage provides. And, there is an increasing number of sugar mommies who want to have their own sugar baby females.

And it’s not just in the U.S.; this propensity has had a wide-spread affect on countries across the world. According to an article on ZDF TV in Germany, there are two types of ladies who joined the search for a ‘Sugar Daddy’ because of their need to be without academic debt whilst on job hunting. One type feels that it is simply work, a duty, and a means of getting by. This type feels akin to the shame of a common prostitute, but the convenience of having her fees paid off quickly is worth it – even at the cost of an emotional struggle rather than a financial one. The other type feels content in a jointed relationship such as this one. This type enjoys providing conversation, companionship and receiving grand meals and monetary aid. They see it as an average understanding. They’re both doing it for the same reasons, but their attitude makes for significantly contrasting experiences.

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Morality

Nude Naked Young Woman with Bow on WhiteSome people are completely antagonistic to this type of ideal arrangement, as you can imagine, because they see it as somewhat of an egocentric, desperate and immoral excuse for dating. CNBC’s Jane Wells published an article on May 2nd of this year (can’t afford college? Let a sugar daddy pay) containing a dozen snide comments criticizing young women that succumb to these drastic measures. She sarcastically belittles the site’s agenda and underscores seemingly ridiculous ideas within their blog, such as sugar babies upholding their standards when searching for a sugar daddy. And then there’s the comparison of outright prostitution, and how this arrangement manages to stay legal. Goldberg addresses this issue as well, reporting that most people using the site are “savvy enough not to broadcast online whether their trading sex for cash.” She also includes the fact that the arrangements can appear more romantic than illegal, after interviewing a New Jersey Attorney. This makes sense in light of the number of innocent dating sites with different services available today, like eHarmony and Match.com.

Feminists cry outrage at the idea, claiming that this type of arrangement reaffirms the typical belief that women are subservient to men in power and money, and there for need male dominance in order to survive – a societal norm that started dying off over sixty years ago. But others apart of the site are on the defense in support of these relationships, denying a sexist streak overshadows the site and reminding that both men and women are welcomed on either side of the playing field. Founders of these types of sites also argue that there are some men who are just compelled to be supportive of young women. iStock_000006746894XSmall-bikiniWade divulges that these arrangements don’t revolve solely around sex; he also mentions that there are more women struggling “to pay for school [that] get asked out than those who admit they want cash for breast implants” according to Goldberg’s article. Steven Pasternack, founder of Sugardaddie.com says that “a lot of married guys are sugar daddies without them realizing it” and that generally “any guy who wants to impress a woman is a sugar daddy” a quote also included in Goldberg’s findings.

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The In-Between

Despite criticism and acclaim toward this type of relationship, there are some people who indulge in this behavior that are neither for it nor against it. Just ask Ariel Black who writes under a pen name for New York magazine, who confesses that while this type of arrangement is emotionally exhausting, it’s also addictive, so she understands why people have a simultaneous distaste and desire for it. She is neither a student nor contemplating breast implants – it simply started with her sickly dog that she cared very much for and started racking up enormously high and impossible veterinary bills. In her article, “How To Find Your Own Sugar Daddy (Like I Did)” Black describes her three tips for finding and landing a sugar daddy while maintaining her sugar baby status. She’s extremely insightful and is brutally honest in the fact that while she doesn’t feel it’s morally wrong, she doesn’t feel that it is a “lifestyle” choice either. She instead leans on the idea that it’s actually just another “adventure” on her “journey.”

girl-on-girlThough there will always be harsh critics of these relationships, there will always be a growing crowd of people who have found something meaningful and valuable to themselves and in others as part of these courtships. Remember that sex doesn’t even have to be part of the equation; some sugar daddies and mommies are just looking for friendship. A lot of the arrangement has to do with the search, and how you find the right one for you. As college students, there will always be something to challenge our principles, and it’s in our best interest to be open-minded about innovative experiences in an ever-evolving society.

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