Real Dating

Dating in the modern age is already difficult. Expectations have become so high that it feels impossible to meet the right person. Especially when so many people are looking for Mr./Mrs, a BF/GF, colleague or just a good friend. Right now instead of just right. With all the anxiety that is involved in dating, dating online has far more anxiety. You get a message online from someone you don’t know and no one you know knows. Trying to make such an important decision is difficult with a few profile descriptions and a hand full of one liners. Want to know what makes it even more difficult? WHEN PEOPLE LIE ON THEIR PROFILE!

Age:

Lying or fibbing about your age is a big deal. It will be painfully obvious when the date starts if you hacked a whole 10 years off your actual age. Even in a superficial culture where age matters and everyone wants to be young, proving that you have no inhibitions about lying is a bad start to a relationship. Most people will bounce after they find out you lied about something so important.

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Everyone’s weight can fluctuate a bit depending on daily eating habits and fluid intake, but putting on your profile that you are an athletic build and weight 160lbs, but show up curvaceous at 200, there are going to be some reconsiderations. It’s not fair that we cannot control our physique 100% and some of us were built thicker than others, but we also cannot wholly decide which body type we are attracted to as well.

Photographs:

iStock_000018701022XSmallThe most difficult decisions when trying to put a dating profile together is which pictures to add. Maybe a selfie to show your assets? Or a group picture to show how cool you because you can just hang out? How about a picture of you doing something adventurous or exotic? With all the options that are possible, it is best to pick pictures that represent yourself the most. Use recent pictures, and if you do decide to use one older for the aesthetic, say how old it is! Nothing is worse than going on a date to realize that your date looks 20 years older than all of his pictures because all of his pictures actually are 20 years old! Also, do NOT include pictures of others though do include full body pics as especially men want to see the whole person not just your face only.

Hobbies & Interests:

Since so many people pick potential dates from their hobbies and interests, it is important to make sure you only put things you are actually interested in. If you pick a person, have a great first date, and then have a second date to go hiking where all your date does is complain about being outside, that will probably be the end of that interest.

 

really-real-hotFirst you lie about your age, weight, or interests, what’s next? Are you married too? Or maybe a stalker? With such a misrepresentation of yourself, the odds of the date going poorly begin stacking up against you. Your date could be a total jerk and storm out spouting off at the mouth about lies. Or they might just ignore you and leaving you wondering about what happened. Online dating is more or less a way to market yourself to the masses. You wouldn’t want people to lie to you and waste your time and money, so don’t do the same to someone else. No one wants to start a relationship based on lies.

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Dating or Whatever You Call it – is Hard

angryOne of the hardest aspects of a real relationship is keeping it as passionate and all-consuming as it was when it first started. After breakups and divorces, many couples say it just didn’t work anymore because they had lost that spark. As years go by, it can be difficult to remember why you got together in the first place. Keeping a real relationship can take some work, but it is worth it. Here are some things you can do to make it last.

 

  • Prioritize your relationship – A relationship isn’t something that you get and then don’t have to take care of anymore. It takes a constant effort to keep both sides together.
  • Don’t hold grudges or keep score – We all make mistakes, that is something that proves we are human, but so is forgiveness. Just because the love of your life forgot your birthday, doesn’t mean that you get a free pass to hurt him or her back. It’s better to be understanding of what is going on with both people.
  • Learn to compromise – There are always a few hiccups when two people get together to share a life. Whether that is deciding what holidays to celebrate in a multi-culture household, or understanding that work schedules are very different. It’s best to learn to give a little now and again.
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    Respect your partner – Taking another’s trust holds some responsibility on your part. You may not always see eye to eye, but being angry beyond words and still having enough respect for your partner to tell them you need a timeout will mean a lot to them later. Respecting your partner at other times can also play a big role in your relationship, whether that is around friends, neighbors, at home, and even out and about.

  • Be open to real conversation – Something about communication is hard for people to fully understand. Have an open door policy with your partner. If something was said that hurt your feelings, you should be able to express that. You should also, in turn, listen to what your partner has to say.
  • Have fun and play games – It shouldn’t be all work to be around each other. When it started, there was a lot of fun, and there is no reason that there still can’t be. Make it a date!
  • Bikini Area Pic 1Don’t forget to be intimate – Every person defines intimacy different, from going all the way to holding hands while taking an evening walk. Whichever form of intimacy you prefer should be a part of your everyday life with your partner.
  • Have your own space – Call it a man cave or woman cave, but each person should have their own safe space. It can be a after-fight cool off zone, craft spot, beer during the game, or whatever you want that you and retreat to when you need some time away.

Relationships are not always easy, and they have their highs and lows. But with a little work and communication, you can continue in a happy and real relationship with the love of your life.

MedsTrackers App

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NEW Independent Review – “I work in home health and my patients sometimes forget to take their medications. We’ve tried setting alarms on their phones, but that doesn’t remind them of which specific medications or special directions. Do you know how hard it is to try and locate an empty medicine bottle in the house of a man with Alzheimer’s Disease? Talk about a needle and a haystack. This app has really helped since we can put all the special instructions, dosage, the RX #, and pharmacy to reorder the medication. Thanks for the great app! It’s a life saver, literally.” A.W.

Independent review – “I love this app! It really helps me remember to take my meds and vitamins helping me with a my diet/fitness program. Super helpful too when traveling thru different time zones especially when you are on a 12 hour regime. If you need to take a pill every four or so hours, no problem. Just set it and forget it! I use it for my cat too. My cat caregiver never missed a dose!” S.A.

MedsMinders is an iPhone/iPad app designed to help/aid users and caregivers in managing their medications, therapy, diets, drugs, pain, therapies, healing, infections, prescriptions, scripts, treatments, allergies, vitamins, herbs, herbals, supplements, health aids and other medical, health, alternative medicine to provide reminders and alerts for users, patients, therapist, pharmaapp_store_icon-300x104cists, practitioners, family members, caregivers, and other health aid helpers to reduce side effects, disease, effects, injury, impact, emergencies, trauma and other impacts. There is a FREE version along with small fee versions.

MedsMinders is also designed specifically for those over-40 and others who are visually-challenged and with near blind eyesight. With extra large fonts for both iPhone and iPad; MedsMinders is designed to be used without the need for “readers” (reading glasses).
For example, according to the FDA-Food and Drug Administration, “a majority of patients reported experiencing at least one side effect due to their medication (86.19%) resulting 60% lower complete adherence and significantly increased dropout rate of 74%.

MedsMinders is part of a family of apps including BiEyes, iFlipTips, iSleepTrack, RewardsVIPClub, and many others from TECHtionary.
You can get help/support and offer ideas/suggestions at cross@gocross.com.

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HIPAA Notice

Does the HIPAA Privacy Rule limit an individual’s ability to gather and share family medical history information?

hipaaNo, it does not limit sharing. The HIPAA Privacy Rule may limit how a covered entity (for example, a health plan or most health care providers) uses or discloses individually identifiable health information, but does not prevent individuals, themselves, from gathering medical information about their family members or from deciding to share this information with family members or others, including their health care providers. Thus, individuals are free to provide their doctors with a complete family medical history or communicate with their doctors about conditions that run in the family. Click on graphic for complete description. We urge you to protect your privacy and not allow access un-ncessarily. You can grant/remove/delete access to any person at anytime in MedsMidners.

Background – Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, a US law designed to provide privacy standards to protect patients’ medical records and other health information provided to health plans, doctors, hospitals and other health care providers. This is a summary of key elements of the Privacy Rule and not a complete or comprehensive guide to compliance. Entities regulated by the Rule are obligated to comply with all of its applicable requirements and should not rely on this summary as a source of legal information or advice. To make it easier for entities to review the complete requirements of the Rule, provisions of the Rule referenced in this summary are cited in the end notes. Visit our Privacy Rule section to view the entire Rule, and for other additional helpful information about how the Rule applies. In the event of a conflict between this summary and the Rule, the Rule governs.

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Selfie App

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BiEyes Photobooth is just one of the new innovations in BiEyesPro. You can organize 2, 4, 6, or 8 pictures together into a “photostrip.” Here are just a few of the many examples submitted. Please send us your pics and we will consider adding them to cross@gocross.com.

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Dating Fraud !

iSeekSugarBabyMale2There are so many rules to online dating on top of the endless rules to dating while offline. Just typing the words ‘Online Dating’ into your search browser will keep you busy reading contradicting statements of online profile dos and don’ts that you’ll never want to see the word dating again. Now, if you’ve been on a dating website for more than a day, you already know the frustration of vague profiles that look great, but don’t seem to have any real personality besides using the word fun a few million times. Every day, you’ll get mainly generic responses that feel like you were contacted through a product of copy and paste. Then the real shocker is when you finally set a date and who showed up is definitely not who was marketed in the profile. Do you want to know the secret to online dating? Being honest and real.

When you make a dating profile, you are advertising yourself.

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If you are searching for a friend, partner or any other person, then you will want someone who wants the real you. Hopefully the desired end result is to hangout, meetup, play/watch sports or anything else, you want to really-real. And, if you want this to last for a long time even more important to be real. e last time, because then you will have the rest of your life to be happy and in love with that someone you find. Sometimes it helps if you have friends help point out your great qualities that should be on your profile, because we sometimes see ourselves differently than others see us.

Don’t fib, not even a little.

I don’t know many people who like to start a brand new relationship that is founded on numerous white lies. Saying that you love a popular hobby, like hiking, on your profile so it stands out is great if you like hiking; however, if you hate being outdoors and you begin dating someone who loves hiking as much as your profile persona, eventually they are going to catch on that you lied. After you have excused your way out of the sixth hiking date offer, they will probably call it quits.

Honesty doesn’t mean imperfection.

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There are many ways to view the same thing. If you are a ‘stay in’ kind of person and don’t really like the social scene, then say it. “I’m not the kind of girl that likes to hang out at clubs and parties, but if you appreciate great home cooked food, Netflix, and cuddling in front of the fireplace, then I’m your kind of girl.” That sentence makes staying in sound like a fabulous time instead of – “I hate clubs and prefer to stay in on Friday nights.” That just sounds surly and like a bad time. There are ways to make any personality type or hobby sound fun for the right kind of person.

Pictures and hobbies can make or break a profile.

If you have a unique hobby like competing in archery, or are able to line dance for hours, talk about it! There is a good chance that someone will contact you because they do the same thing or are interested in your hobby. This is not the time to conform to social expectations. A picture is worth a thousand words and while we shouldn’t, people do judge a book by its cover. Take time to find the best pictures for your dating profile. If you are not satisfied with any photos you already have, take some new ones with the help of a friend or two.

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ReallyReal Sex

sex2Sex is one of those topics that some people can’t seem to discuss with a new partner. There are also a lot of popular misconceptions from various sources that lead people to make not so good choices in the bedroom. The first step is talking to your partner before you get intimately involved. If you are not comfortable having that conversation yet, here are some general sex facts. However, people are not psychic and some want sex a lot. Others want more but afraid to ask. Others don’t know anything about sex but want to learn and someone to really pleasure them daily. So, get a grip on your sexual needs, wants and what you really love !

 

37260410_mlMasturbation is a normal. It does not mean that your partner isn’t getting enough, nor does it mean there is something wrong with your sex life. A high majority of people masturbate for any number of reasons, from stress relief, to sleep better, and even relieve PMS symptoms. Also, using a vibrator while masturbating, or just masturbating, will not desensitize a woman for sex later. If anything, it could heighten her pleasure because her body could be more responsive and more easily aroused. So everyone, go and masturbate as much as you like.

 

sex1Men aren’t always in the mood just like women. Whoever told you that if he says no you when you suggest sex then his up to something was very wrong. Just like women, men may turn down sex when they are not in the mood for various reasons like not feeling good, a bad day, and even tired. Let him relax, offer him a shoulder massage, and try again later. Just because he isn’t in the mood, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you or something is wrong in the relationship.

 

There is no formula for how often you should have sex, so stop basing your sex life off those magazine quizzes. Five times a week, once a week, three times a month… whatever quantity that works for you and your partner is how often you should be getting it on. People have different sexual needs and that includes frequency. Some couples will opt for sex all the time and the more you find giving pleasure – the more you will get pleasure.

 

35843745_ml-aChanging it up in the bedroom can add a new spice, but it doesn’t mean you are lacking spice. Some couples like to experiment sexually while other a perfectly okay with always staying missionary. Discuss boundaries ahead of time so that no one will be uncomfortable. Remember that just because someone is asking to try something new, it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with what you already do. If you’re worried that saying no will be an issue, try suggesting something else that you would enjoy instead.

 

47748804_sSimultaneous orgasms are for erotica and romance novels. Yes it is possible to orgasm together and it can be amazing, but it is rather difficult to accomplish. It takes a lot of control from both individuals which can be difficult to control and time. Don’t consider it the goal every time you have sex, but consider it like winning on a scratch ticket or the lottery. Sex should be about pleasure not stress with who and whomever and wherever you like.

Really Real Ways For First Meetup

31174880_sNothing can make or break a relationship before it starts like a first impression. A first impression can last a lifetime, and it is important to properly represent yourself. You want to portray the real you in the first moments of contact. With something that is so important, it is easy to get it wrong. Here are some tips to make your first impression a real one.

1. Be really real on your dating profile. It will be the first impression for your date, but it will also set up their expectations of who you are on your date as well. If your date realizes that you weren’t honest on your profile, they will assume you just aren’t an honest person.

2. Dress your best. You should dress for the occasion. If you prefer a casual style, but are going to a nice restaurant, dress nice according to your comfort level. Yoga pants are usually a sign that you are not serious, unless your first date involves exercise or couch cuddling.

3. Maintain some mystery. It’s a first date; they don’t need to know your life story. Keep very personal information to yourself unless it’s important to the date. What your therapist said at your last appointment is for your BFF, not your date.

4. Stay away from hot topics. Marriage, children, religion, and politics are all something that should have been covered in the dating profile if it was extremely important. Either way, don’t bring any of these up on the first date. Even if it makes or breaks a relationship in your eyes, your date might feel a red flag that it’s being discussed on a first date. Also, never EVER ask how the date is going or how they feel that match is. It can make a date go bad or awkward real quick. Yes, talk about sex and other things you want in a relationship – calls – no calls, texting, sexting, etc. If you like the person have sex with them – there is no one survey that confirms having sex on the first date has any correlation to relationship longevity.

25568905_s5. STAY OFF YOUR CELL! Some jobs or personal matters may require you to take a phone call during a date. Try to ensure that you don’t need to, but if it is unavoidable, make sure to mention this at the start of the date, and stay off your phone unless you get that important call. Nothing is more of a bad impression than someone who has to check their cell/smartphone every 15 seconds. Nothing is more rude than texting in front of another person.

6. Be on time! Nothing is more frustrating than showing up to a first date 10 minutes early and your date arrive late. If you are too late, your date might think you stood them up and leave. It could ruin your chance at getting a second date. As one fashion model said, if you are early – you are ontime. If you are ontime – you are late. And, if you are late – you are fired !

31900636_sDating IS difficult, and finding the right person even more so. Don’t let something like a bad first impression ruin your chance at a great relationship with the right person. Oh, last remember what Patrick Swayze said in the movie Road House, “just be nice” as manners are always appreciated. You may not want to date this person but you never know about it could be a career opportunity. Oh, have fun and show your silly side. Life is too short to not have a sense of humor.

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ReallyReal Friends

3-wayFinding a real friendship is hard. Many times it feels superficial or one-sided. There are a lot of people out there who will only take and never give. When it comes to real friends, you want someone who gives more than they receive; someone you can rely on. On the flip side, you also want to be the best friend you can be so you don’t lose those great friends you already have. Here are some tips about what qualities make real friends.

 

  1. Be yourself because no one enjoys bait and swap. Don’t do it to a date, potential date, or friends.

 

  1. Don’t hold unrealistic expectations about how your friends should be. High expectations of people you don’t know will always leave people falling short.

 

  1. techteen-1Don’t lie, even by omission – be really real. Being lied to is one of the worst feelings in the world. Lying by omission doesn’t count as lying, but it still feels like betrayal when the truth comes out. And the truth always comes out, sooner or later.

 

  1. Don’t judge your friends by their choices. There are many decisions and lifestyles that people make that friends will not agree with, but real friends will still support them through the trials of that choice.

 

  1. Be loyal and respect your friends because they deserve it. It is never okay to gossip about your friends. You should also defend your friend if someone else is gossiping about them. You would want your friend to do the same about you.

 

  1. Don’t argue and forgive your friend. Everyone makes mistakes. You make mistakes, your friends make mistakes, even those that seem perfect make mistakes. Instead of holding grudges or keeping score, a real friend will forgive a mistake.

 

  1. Be there for your friends, at their best and their worst. You always have friends when things are great, but many of them seem to disappear when things get rough. Be reliable for your friends by being there for them when they are at their worst, because you would want them to be there for you. However, set the parameters NOW that if you can’t be there for them ALL the time or most of the time. Also, make it clear you are NOT going to bail them out of jail.

 

  1. Find time and stick to common interests. Everyone has more fun when everyone can relate to hang out spots. If they want to do something that isn’t on your favorite list, compromise a bit and agree to one day for them and one day for you.

 

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    Keep things 50/50. No one wants to be ignored while your friend only talks about themselves 24/7.

 

  1. Make an effort. Just like any relationship, it takes an effort on both sides to keep the relationship strong. There are those rare friendships where you can pick up where you left off years later, but that isn’t true for everyone.

 

  1. No negativity zone. Everyday life can be difficult and being negative all the time can wear down friendships. There should always be a positive area and people in your life where you can de-stress. That’s what friends are for.

 

  1. Remain independent and boundaries. Even though you want your friends to be there for you when you need them, you shouldn’t rely on them for everything. It’s healthy to be able to handle some things on your own, but not everything. Find a sweet halfway point between totally independent and totally dependent.

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Catfish Reality – Jake Gyllenhaal Loses His Sh*t at Amy Schumer

Allow Jake Gyllenhaal to show how he earned that Oscar nomination, via this insane Inside Amy Schumer skit he stars in (courtesy of The Hollywood Reporter). A fame-hungry Amy thinks she’s being played by a ferret fanatic claiming to be Jake who’s been messaging her, so she goes on Katfish (à la MTV’s magical reality drama, Catfish). She arrives at his place to out him, only to find it’s really Jake. “Of course, why would I lie?” he told her, referencing his Oscar nomination. “That’s a really cool thing to get….” Click on image for video.

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Jake is all about it until he realizes Amy isn’t the ferret enthusiast she claimed to be. And that’s when he has a glorious meltdown while dangling a ferret. “You LIED to me?! F*ck you! F*ck you, Amy! I believed in you!” And it only gets better at the 3:00 mark:

real-catfishAccording to Urban Dictionary – “A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they’re not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.”

 

 

As you can imagine, catfishing is so rampant that you wonder who’s really real ?

 

 

Sugar Daddy Dating

Burnt-Out Blues Are A Thing Of The Past

There’s no disputing the fact that there isn’t a shortage of criticism for sugar daddy and baby arrangements. A well-off older man/woman trading money in exchange for the companionship of a financially struggling but attractive young adult – has sparked a whirlwind of controversy amongst the many faces of sexism, feminism, and college grads/undergrads. Some even belittling it so much as to call it “sickening” and “an excuse for prostitution” and “desperate” attempts for finding fast cash while discarding personal moral values. But that’s not what Susie (not her real name), 22-year old junior and native of Colorado believes. Susie is a full-time student, and all though federal student loans pay for a good portion of her tuition and academic expenses, Susie says that “it’s still just, not enough.” Susie cringes at the idea of a full-time job along with her studies; she says that even her two former part-time jobs (one as a receptionist for a real estate company, and the other as a hostess at a pub) barely got her by on rent, food and car insurance.

Nine months ago, she was living month-to-month, scraping together money from her meager pay checks and portioning out her student money ever conservatively in the slight chance that she be laid off or lose her job for some reason in the future. “After losing my full-time job at a local ‘mom-and-pop’ packaging service because they refused to work with my new semester’s schedule, I had to make sure that I secured two jobs in case the company all of a sudden, turned on me. After I had already given them so much time and compromised an A in one of my courses for a B because I’d really tried pleasing them to keep my job, they still had the nerve to let me go. I couldn’t risk that scenario happening again.” So Susie got her jobs to accommodate her busy academic schedule, as a receptionist during her days off, and a hostess late at nights after school, until early morning before school.

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Finding time to study in-between was near impossible. It was just as hard to stay awake in classes and finish homework between shifts as it was in her full-time job, but at least she wasn’t going to have the added stress of paying her bills on time on top of a busy study schedule. At first, Susie didn’t even know about this sugar dating service. She instead, resorted to other alternatives that were a threat to her health. Taking uppers like speed, daily, sometimes 2-3 times a day, just to finish homework, or study for an exam, or even to stay awake during class or a shift. “If I tried coming off of them, I’d crash in front of my keyboard for hours, oversleeping and missing class or being late for a shift.” Susie recalls. “And if I ever managed to have a free day because school was cancelled, I’d be waning of these pills, and the crash was just awful. I’d become really agitated and moody, and I’d have fits with everyone I knew. I lost friends and made severe gaps between family members, because I couldn’t control my rage.” It didn’t stop at threatening her social life – soon her professional life was starting to crumble from it. “Having an outburst over the phone with a client from the real estate company, I again, lost another job, and was going to be on high stress levels whilst job hunting.”

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Susie was tired of the same scathing jobs and the same uncertainty that comes with every typical ‘9-5’ type of work. She was searching for something different, some outlet that provided big bucks without requiring she kill herself with lack of sleep, abundance of stress, compromising grades and succumbing to artificial stimulants for the sake of her schooling. She knew she didn’t have it in her to put all her chickens in one basket on some 1-in-a-millioninth chance talent competition, or creating something ingenious that someone else would want to invest in. Besides, those were dreams better saved for people who actually worked towards those, and still sacrifice a life for that one shining moment on America’s Got Talent or Shark Tank. No, Susie would have to try something she never considered until now – becoming a sugar baby.

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While on her unyielding Google search, she came across an article about college women who were in her same position and willing to give their time to someone who could provide them with a convenient lifestyle and foot their bill for tuition. She admits that she was hesitant and a little judgmental, initially, at the thought of sex with men who would pay up for such attentiveness. But then she thought of the unfair hands she’d been dealt – here she was, a hard-working girl with ambition and inspiration to become something and do something with her life, and yet, she was in the same boat as many of her co-workers who never attended college, struggling to afford an aged car, an apartment in a complex notorious for bed bugs and manager special’s on expired food from the local deli. She had done her best to balance her life out and remain loyal to jobs, but still she had to resort to illegal means of abusing street prescription drugs and tearing up her social life just to hold on to her academic and basic survival. It was intolerable. iStock_000018768319SmallAnd with that conclusion, Susie decided that her world didn’t have to be this hard, and that being paid to be someone’s friend was something she could do for herself, to give her the deserving break she desperately needed. So when people call sugar daddy dating services “desperate” Susie agrees, and says “yeah, I was desperate, and my moral compass [told me] that this was a much more legit way to earn money and maintain good grades than pour over some illegal ‘limitless-wannabe’ miracle drug that made me feel like s***” referring to the recent movie with Bradley Cooper.

A Happy Ending

Susie says that in her experience with being a sugar baby, she has found more interesting conversation and sincere listeners in the sugar daddies she meets than she ever has in her entire dating repertoire. The guys she met in school were always so caught up in themselves, and what they wanted. “They never bothered to make a real connection, and they were as financially unstable as I was, so they could never take me out on the dates I get to go on with the men I’ve found now.” And many of the men, Susie reveals, aren’t looking for sex, but actual compatibility and friendship. Susie says that she no longer has to have unnatural mood swings that affect every other relationship in her life, and that she no longer works unrelenting hours and can actually find time to sleep and study without worrying about where her next paycheck will come from. “I talk to them and get to know their upbringing, and own struggles and triumphs, and obsess about my own, all while enjoying a lavish cup of coffee at some posh restaurant after lunch.” Susie says that she will also not have to worry about debt after she graduates, because her newest squeeze has continued to pay her loans off bit by bit, and that makes the job search after graduation, a whole lot brighter. She likes to think of it as work actually worth the money it pays, for a change.

There are thousands of girls out there that are vying to keep their head above water. But the truth is, that struggle to work while in school is old news. With this sugar dating service, there is finally opportunity for young women to find their way in life and focus on making an impact on the world, rather than following the status quo that prohibits any young adult to make a difference in the world because their busy fretting about their financial strains. With the recent rise in student loans and a seemingly never ending pool of debt that so many college grads seem to be diving into, why should this legit alternative to earning money be anything but another respectable way to earn money? Women working in contact centers to cocktail waitresses working two or more jobs, and now a stress-free job description as a sugar baby is the new dating fad – and we’re all ready to pounce on the idea? Maybe we should open our eyes to what financial burdens have been placed on our society for us to have evolved into this new trend, and many of those criticizers would consider the employment for what it truly is – just another job opportunity in light of a poor economy.

In Part 2, there will be another success story compilation of sugar baby males and sugar mommies, a sugar baby female with other struggles and sugar daddy (focusing on discrete benefits of such dating service), and how she’ll continue it after school is over.

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